Tuesday, June 26, 2012

feast and merriment to follow

my favorite photo of that day

I almost titled this post, Reader I Married Him, in a nod to my favorite novel, Jane Eyre, but then I remembered that I read that somewhere somewhat recently and it wasn’t in a book. Finally, it donned on me that Luisa used that line on her blog.

On our invitation, we expressly told our guests to bring their dancing shoes. It said, “Feast and merriment to follow. Bring your dancing shoes.” And so it was. Feast and merriment followed, though, technically, merriment started well before dancing. It was a famous night.

Up above is my favorite picture from the wedding. I love it for a multitude of reasons, but not the least of which is that it looks like I’m wearing fairy wings. It’s merely a detail of the tent we’re under, but that’s pretty much how I felt all night – floating and glowy. That gigantic grin I have is how I feel about Andrew every day.


When Andrew and I got engaged, we decided that for a few months, we weren’t going to plan the wedding. We were just going to enjoy the engagement part of it. Boy, I’m glad we did that.

Here’s the funny thing about wedding that no one really tells you (and there’s no way of knowing this if you haven’t been married before): wedding require a lot of planning and coordination. I had some idea that this is going to be big, but I had no idea how big. The trick is, and no one tells you this in earnest, but planning a wedding is a full time job. I know that, technically, people do say that, but what they really should be doing instead is to gently take you by the shoulders and sit you down and in a quiet but very serious voice say, “This is a full time job. A full time job.” And no one does this. They just throw their arms up and roll their eyes and you think, “This is one big hyperbole! It can’t possibly be that time consuming.” It is. Believe me, it is.

The veiling and the ketubah signing

I say this all partly because I never dreamed of planning a wedding. It was never something I thought I’d find fun or a wise use of time. I had a book to co-author, and then without so much as a break, I moved onto another book in the final throes of which I remain and, frankly, should be working on this very minute. Heh.

But even though I never envisioned my wedding day (I did dream of marrying a great person), it turned out to be a perfect day. Slightly chilly, it worked out for the gentlemen in suits. During picture taking, the skies were slightly overcast (aka the photographer’s dream); but just as we started to process for the ceremony, the sun came out, bathing everything in its warm, golden light. It was as if someone cued more light on command.


The entire day and night, Andrew and I were grinning from ear to ear, and I finally realized what my friends meant about your cheeks hurting at the end of the day. What we wanted was a great, fun party, filled with great food, drink, and people, and we got just that.

There were mushroom mini-tarts, foie gras torchons, lambcicles, spicy tuna tartare, and fava bean crostini. There was short rib, roasted salmon with sorrel sauce, and crepes with mushroom duxelles. And there was a dessert buffet: lavender crème brulee spoons, carrot cake bites, bourbon bread pudding, profiteroles, and strawberry shortcake. There were signature cocktails. And as far as I can tell, everyone’s bellies were full and everyone’s shoes were a little more scuffed from the dance floor.

under the chuppah

I remember seeing our dear friends and family and my heart swelling with love and joy. It meant so much to see people gather from all over, England and Germany, California and Washington, New York and Toronto, to share our wedding day with us. I remember walking down the aisle with my parents, both beaming with joy. I remember standing under the chuppah, as Andrew and I held hands, looking over at my father-in-law who mouthed, “I love you”, and it almost made me cry. I remember Andrew placing the ring on my index finger and not realizing it wasn’t supposed to go all the way, so he tried to push it up the finger until the rabbi told him it wasn’t supposed to fit.

during our first dance

But my absolutely favorite moment of the night was when the DJ played Queen’s “Somebody to Love”. Andrew and I wanted to end the evening with a great, rock love ballad with heart and follow that up with a loud and energetic “No Sleep ‘Til Brooklyn”. We figured the former might be a good slow dance song – the only slow dance song of the night. What we couldn’t have anticipated was that everyone, as if scripted, huddled into a circle with their friends and family, and all just swayed to the music, belting out the lyrics with Freddie Mercury.

somebody to love circle

There was a feast. There was merriment. And there was a lot of love. Freddie would’ve been proud.

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I wanted to give a nod to some of the folks who were totally instrumental in making our wedding incredible.

Photographer: the incredible, inimitable Stacey Ilyse (who shot many of my friends’ weddings) and whose image above can only be captured by someone who sees beauty in tiny details – you are amazing, thank you!
Music for Ceremony: the incredibly talented Naseem Khuri of Kingsley Flood (how friggin’ lucky did we get?)
Venue: Moraine Farm (particularly Amy Hudon who walks on water as far as I’m concerned)
Caterer: Fireside Catering (including our tiny, awesome homey carrot wedding cake)
Florist: Gregory’s (Wakefield, Massachusetts)
DJ: Murray Hill Talent (DJ Rob Camberlain)
Beer Truck: Ipswich Ale Brewery
Invitations: Minted
Dress: Priscilla – sadly no longer in business (they were truly awesome), but several of you asked me for the name of the dress. It’s called Cricket and it’s from the Vineyard collection or something like that in case you’re looking for that very dress somewhere on eBay or wherever. It comes with a halter, which due to my small shoulders, looked silly on me so we went strapless.

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  • 1
    Dana said:


    June 26, 2012 2:02 pm
  • 2
    Brian said:

    So so so so so happy for you! Love the shot of you smiling. Congrats!!!

    June 26, 2012 2:03 pm
  • 3
    Brian said:

    To be more specific, it’s the second shot that I’m talking about. ;-)

    June 26, 2012 2:04 pm
  • 4
    kim said:

    Congratulations! :D

    June 26, 2012 2:05 pm
  • 5
    IdaBaker said:

    Congratulations!! I wish you and you’re newest family member all the happiness in the world.

    June 26, 2012 2:06 pm
  • 6
    Shaina said:

    Congratulations, Olga! Over the moon for you both. xo

    June 26, 2012 2:08 pm
  • 7

    What a wonderful post, Olga! Loved every shot and hearing about the day. Glad you were able to take in every single detail. Mazel tov to you and Andrew!

    June 26, 2012 2:12 pm
  • 8
    Winnie said:

    Beautiful words and photos Olga. I am so very happy for you and Andrew :)

    June 26, 2012 2:14 pm
  • 9

    congratulations! Gorgeous gorgeous wedding and day.

    June 26, 2012 2:17 pm
  • 10
    Janae said:

    Beautiful! Congratulations!

    June 26, 2012 2:34 pm
  • 11
    Whitney said:


    Everything about this post just made me grin and tear up. You made for such a beautiful and happy bride and I’m so glad that all the work of planning (I’ve been there) ended up as a wonderful day of celebration (rather than a medicore day of worrying about the little details)! Looks like you had an amazing party which is only the begining of your new story with Anderw.

    Mazel tov!

    June 26, 2012 2:44 pm
  • 12

    Oh Olga, it does look like a famous night. Indeed!
    For someone who started reading you long before the current shape of your life, I am just so happy for you. For the two of you. For the work you have created for yourself. For seeing you grin so wide and joyously. It is all wonderful.
    Sending my very best, for today and for a long joyous life together. xox

    June 26, 2012 2:59 pm
  • 13

    Congratulations! — you looked radiant and he looked thrilled! What a lovely wedding. All the best for a long and happy future!

    June 26, 2012 3:43 pm
  • 14
    Mariya said:

    Congratulations! These photos are both making me smile and cry. So beautifully captured.

    June 26, 2012 3:44 pm
  • 15
    MJ said:

    I love the photo of the two of you in the upper-middle, where you have a huge smile. Congratulations!

    June 26, 2012 5:04 pm
  • 16
    Leela said:

    Congratulations, Olga! You’re simply gorgeous bride. I wish you and Andrew much happiness together.

    June 26, 2012 8:30 pm
  • 17
    Karen said:

    Mazel Tov! I love your recipes. Wishing you a lifetime of happiness.

    June 26, 2012 9:07 pm
  • 18

    You were a beautiful bride!

    June 26, 2012 9:25 pm
  • 19
    Kalyn said:

    It’s lovely to see you looking so happy. I wish you both all the best!

    June 26, 2012 11:04 pm
  • 20

    You look so gorgeous and happy! Gorgeous was already a given (because it’s you), so of course the happy part is the most meaningful. Congratulations! Such sweet photos.

    June 26, 2012 11:09 pm
  • 21
    Katie said:

    Congrats! Looks and sounds like it was an absolutely beautiful day! Enjoy each other :)

    June 27, 2012 3:01 am
  • 22
    Leslie said:

    All the best, you both look very happy!

    June 27, 2012 3:33 am
  • 23
    Erin said:

    Beautiful beautiful! Congratulations!

    June 27, 2012 8:02 am
  • 24
    Magda said:

    Congratulations!! I wish you all the best!!

    June 27, 2012 9:01 am
  • 25
    Alyssa said:

    Congratulations!!! I’ve been a long time reader of your blog, and I live in Salem, MA…who knew I’d be a neighbor to your beautiful wedding venue.

    Wishing you all the best with Andrew!

    June 27, 2012 10:12 am
  • 26
    Ali said:

    Congratulations!!! Here’s to many, many years of blissful togetherness!

    June 27, 2012 11:02 am
  • 27
    Nicole said:

    Congratulations, Olga!!

    June 27, 2012 1:39 pm
  • 28
    Jess said:

    Oh, Olga, what a joy to read this post. I’m thrilled for you. Congratulations, my dear! xo

    June 27, 2012 10:52 pm
  • 29
    M said:

    From a long-time reader of your blog…

    This sounds utterly, overwhelmingly fantastic, and I wish you all the best. You look lovely in your photos.

    I’ve been with my particular partner/lover/best friend for over six years now and I still can’t imagine the terror of planning a wedding. But you seem to have pulled it off with great grace and aplomb. (And the menu, be still my heart! Sounds amazing.)

    All the best. :)

    June 27, 2012 10:54 pm
  • 30

    Fabulous!! I’m so happy for the two of you. It looks like the day was absolutely perfect. Yes, i know a thing or two about how much work goes into planning a wedding. How you managed to pull it off WHILE writing a cookbook (not to mention a blog), I don’t know. Kudos!

    July 4, 2012 10:49 pm
  • 31

    This post echoes almost word for word some of the things I wrote/ felt when planning my own wedding last summer- specifically about never being the kind of girl who really “dreamed” of planning a wedding, and about it being a full time job! All of your hard work obviously paid off, though… looks like it was a magical day. So happy for you both!

    July 5, 2012 10:20 am
  • 32
    kickpleat said:

    Congratulations!! You both look wonderfully thrilled and I love that first pic too – yippee for fairy wings!

    July 6, 2012 1:02 pm
  • 33
    Kristen said:

    What a beautiful story – through pictures and your words. Congrats!

    July 6, 2012 5:11 pm
  • 34
    Radish said:

    Kristen and everyone – Thank you so much!

    July 6, 2012 5:20 pm
  • 35

    Congratulations, you were truly a beautiful bride!

    July 6, 2012 6:12 pm
  • 36
    Tracey said:

    Your dress is absolutely stunning! Congratulations!

    July 8, 2012 4:56 pm
  • 37

    Congratulations!! It looks like a VERY happy day. :)

    July 14, 2012 11:06 am
  • 38
    Micaela Torregrosa-Mahoney said:

    oh Olga! You got married while I was away… CONGRATULATIONS!!! The pictures are beautiful and it sounds like it was a wonderful & memorable day for everyone, you & Andrew most of all. Wishing you the utmost happiness and a long and happy marriage. <3 I love your chuppah!

    July 16, 2012 10:13 am
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  • 40

    Congratulations, you really look beautiful in your photo; I love the one black and white where you are dancing. We can see your happiness in your eyes, the most beautiful day of your lives I imagine.

    April 24, 2013 1:00 pm
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